The Functioning Hot Mess

The Importance of Not Transferring the Parental Role to Your Partner

Something I see fairly often when talking with people is a transfer of the parental role to their partner. While this is most common in romantic relationships, it can also occur in friendships and boss-employee relationships as well. No matter where this is happening, it tends to be somewhat hidden, and it can negatively impact the entire dynamic of your relationship.

 

In today’s episode, I’m covering:

-My own story of getting married young, and how I transferred the parental role to my then partner

-How to recognize when this is happening in your relationship, and how to go about making a positive change 

-Learning the importance of having difficult (but very necessary) conversations with your partner, so you can build a stronger and united relationship

 

Changing your behavior and taking certain actions will take time-this won’t all happen overnight. I don’t want you to blame your partner, friend, boss, etc., or feel like you need to tear them down, because this is not a hierarchy. When you’re tapping into your higher power and empowering yourself, you’ll be able to show up with more compassion, power, and love for your partner, and your relationship. 

 

If you’re ready for a life coach, connect with me here: https://theheartofconfidence.com/

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This episode is sponsored by Perfectly Imperfect Membership-https://theheartofconfidence.com/membership. 

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FULL SHOW NOTES: https://theheartofconfidence.com/episode116

Why We Need to Spend More Time Outside

I don’t know about you, but I absolutely love this time of year. The weather is warming up, so you’ll probably find me camping, riding my motorcycle, or even hanging out with friends. Honestly, I just feel like my spirits are lifted because I love being outside. I think spending more time outdoors is beneficial for all of us, and we need to make it a priority, now more than ever!

 

In today’s episode, I’m talking about:

-The importance of planning and making time in our schedule to get outside with family, friends, or even by yourself

-How spending more time in nature can actually improve our overall health and well-being 

-Why the scenery and environment where we live doesn’t really matter as long as we’re getting outside more

 

While there is no such thing as a “magic pill”, spending time outside is actually a form of preventative medicine in some countries, and it really can bring us the peace and calm we truly need (and crave). I want to encourage you to focus on being present, and take in all of the beauty around you. I can’t wait to hear all of the fun things you’ll be doing and experiencing when you spend more time outside this summer!

 

If you’re ready for a life coach, connect with me here: https://theheartofconfidence.com/

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This episode is sponsored by Perfectly Imperfect Membership-https://theheartofconfidence.com/membership. If you’re feeling like a hot mess and you know you need a change, or you’re just ready to level up and not sure where to start, you can try my new membership risk free for 7 days!

FULL SHOW NOTES: https://theheartofconfidence.com/episode115

4 Steps to Take to Bring More Fun into Your Life

Something I hear often from my coaching clients is the lack of fun they’re having in their lives. It’s pretty easy to get caught up in the busyness and day-to-day duties of having jobs, families, and all of the adult responsibilities. We don’t remember how to have fun, and we don’t even know what we enjoy anymore-sound familiar? You’re not alone if you feel this way, but I want to show you how bringing more fun into your life is totally doable!

 

In today’s episode, I’m talking about 4 steps to take so you can bring more fun into your life; we can do this by creating a 'fun' menu. I’ll dive into the importance of choosing things YOU want to do by yourself (and why you shouldn’t feel guilty about it), how to have fun with your partner and friends, simple ways to go about making your list, and more. 

 

Whether you decide to try something you loved doing in your childhood, or you want to try something brand new you’ve always dreamt about doing, I want you to be open to new things, and get out of your comfort zone a bit. Life is too short to not have fun; it’s time to find our joy again, and I can’t wait to see what you come up with!

 

If you’re ready for a life coach, connect with me here: https://theheartofconfidence.com/

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This episode is sponsored by Reech Yoga Mats- http://theheartofconfidence.com/myreech. Get a 30 day money-back guarantee when you try your mat today, and use the code HOTMESS10 for $10 off!

FULL SHOW NOTES: https://theheartofconfidence.com/episode114

How to Shift Our Thoughts When It Comes to Comparison

Do you get caught up in the comparison trap? You may look at someone you see often on social media, and you envy what she has-her house, her car, her relationship, her body, etc. Without even realizing it, you’ve put her up on a pedestal, and you beat yourself up for not being like her, or having everything she has. If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone-I’ve definitely been guilty of this too!

 

In today’s episode, I’m talking about:

-Why comparing ourselves to others takes away from our own self-love, and all that we’ve done

-My own story of only wanting to share the ‘good’ parts of a previous relationship

-How we can learn to stop comparing and instead, be inspired to create better habits for our own lives

 

It’s so easy to fall into the comparison trap when we’re constantly seeing what others are doing around us-especially in the online world. Remember though-you’re more than likely only seeing the ‘highlight reel’, aka the best parts of other people’s lives. Let those people give you hope, and start thinking about a shift you can make to better your life for today, and for the future.

 

If you’re ready for a life coach, connect with me here: https://theheartofconfidence.com/

I would love to continue this conversation-connect with me over on Instagram!

This episode is sponsored by Reech Yoga Mats- http://theheartofconfidence.com/myreech. Get a 30 day money-back guarantee when you try your mat today, and use the code HOTMESS10 for $10 off!

FULL SHOW NOTES: https://theheartofconfidence.com/episode113

How to Break Free from Your Fear and Step into an Empowered Life with Susan Burrell

Have you struggled with letting fear hold you back from doing what you’re meant to do? We all experience setbacks throughout our lives, and while they may be unexpected, fear doesn’t have to keep us playing small, or feeling stuck. If this resonates with you, you won’t want to miss today’s episode where I get to chat with Susan Burrell, an amazing author, podcaster, intuitive healer, and spiritual guide.

 

Susan is a feisty Scorpio like myself, and she’s navigated life by learning how to listen within to the Divine urge that keeps pointing her in the direction of her life’s purpose. She is an empath, and she loves supporting women in their inner growth toward finding true empowerment. She even has her own thought-provoking podcast called “Empowering Chats with Susan”, because she loves being in conversation with people, and learning what they think and feel.

 

In today’s episode, we’re talking about:

-Susan’s own story of feeling ‘broken’ and navigating a horrible divorce after almost 30 years of marriage

-How she rediscovered herself and learned to weed out the negative thoughts and beliefs that no longer served her

-The reasons why fear can hold us hostage 

-How we can learn to step into our own empowerment, and realize that we are all precious and divine sparks

 

Susan gets so much joy from helping others find their brilliance and inner love. I felt truly empowered and lifted up after talking with her, and I have no doubt you will experience plenty of self-reflection when you listen to our incredible conversation too!

 

Check out Susan’s group on Facebook: Live Your Empowered Life

If you’re ready for a life coach, connect with me here: https://theheartofconfidence.com/

I would love to continue this conversation-connect with me over on Instagram!

This episode is sponsored by Reech Yoga Mats- http://theheartofconfidence.com/myreech. Get a 30 day money-back guarantee when you try your mat today, and use the code HOTMESS10 for $10 off!

FULL SHOW NOTES: https://theheartofconfidence.com/episode112

Why You Need to Believe in Yourself First

Do you struggle with pursuing your goals if you don’t feel like you’re being supported? Maybe your significant other, a family member, or close friend isn't showing you the support you were hoping for (or you think you need), so you stay stuck, and don’t move forward. If you have a big dream or goal you’re going after, I’m here to tell you that YOU have to believe in yourself before anyone else can.

 

In today’s episode, I’m talking about:

-The importance of getting very specific when it comes to what you need from your support system

-Why you don’t need validation from someone else

-Why really evaluating your hesitations and concerns will help you to find the belief in yourself to move forward

 

I want you to really dig deep and think about what it will take for you to become the person you envision yourself to be. Don’t be afraid to ask for help, but also understand you can accomplish the things you want to as long as you know you can. You deserve to have a thriving, successful, and healthy life-I’m cheering you on, because I know you can do it!

 

If you’re ready for a life coach, connect with me here: https://theheartofconfidence.com/

I would love to continue this conversation-connect with me over on Instagram!

This episode is sponsored by Reech Yoga Mats- http://theheartofconfidence.com/myreech. Get a 30 day money-back guarantee when you try your mat today, and use the code HOTMESS10 for $10 off!

FULL SHOW NOTES: https://theheartofconfidence.com/episode111

How to Positively Handle One Way Friendships

Have you ever dealt with a friendship where it was all one-sided, and no matter how much you did for the other person, they never seemed to care? Trust me when I say, I’ve experienced this first hand, and it can be super frustrating when you feel like you’re the only one contributing to the relationship.

 

In today’s episode, I’m sharing: 

-My personal experience with a one way friendship, and what I learned during the process

-Three things you can do to handle your friendship in a healthy way, or at least prevent it from fading away all together

-How to recognize if you’re the friend who is doing all of the taking and no giving

 

I’ve learned that some friendships aren’t meant to last forever; sometimes we outgrow people, and that’s okay! At the end of the day, if you're being kind, loving, and honest with yourself and your friend, it will all work out like it’s supposed to.

 

If you’re ready for a life coach, connect with me here: https://theheartofconfidence.com/

I would love to continue this conversation-connect with me over on Instagram!

This episode is sponsored by Reech Yoga Mats- http://theheartofconfidence.com/myreech. Get a 30 day money-back guarantee when you try your mat today, and use the code HOTMESS10 for $10 off!

FULL SHOW NOTES: https://theheartofconfidence.com/episode110

9 Signs You May Be In a Toxic Relationship

Have you ever felt like something in your relationship is a little off, but you can’t quite put your finger on it? Maybe you do recognize that your relationship is in a bad place, but you’re not sure how to improve it for the better, or if that’s even possible.

 

In today’s episode, I’m sharing 9 signs that you may be in a toxic relationship. Embarrassment, poor communication, dishonesty, and lack of self care are just a few of the topics I’ll be covering. I also want you to consider how these things may be affecting the relationship you have with yourself. Nope-it’s not just about negative relationships with your significant other, parent, boss, coworker, etc.

 

While it can be pretty difficult to change someone else’s toxic traits, we do have the power to change ourselves, which is amazing! I want you to start by being more aware of your thoughts, and what you’re saying, and over time, you can dramatically improve the relationship you have with yourself.

 

If you’re ready for a life coach, connect with me here: https://theheartofconfidence.com/

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This episode is sponsored by http://www.positivevibecoffeeco.com. Enter the code Podcast at checkout, and you’ll get 15% off your first order!

FULL SHOW NOTES: https://theheartofconfidence.com/episode109

Feeling Empowered When Managing Your Finances After a Transition with Rachael Burns

Have you felt lost when it comes to your finances? Maybe you’ve gone through an unexpected life change, and you have zero experience handling your own finances. If you’ve ever faced anything like this, you’re not alone. In today’s episode, I’m chatting with Rachael Burns, a certified financial planner and certified divorce financial analyst. 

 

Rachael is the founder of True Worth Financial Planning, which helps newly single women get their finances on track after a divorce or the death of a spouse. She found her true calling after navigating her own trauma and finances with mistakes made along the way. Now, she gets to empower and support other women during the most challenging transitions of their lives. 

 

In today’s episode, we’re talking about:

-How you can get started if you have no idea how to manage your finances

-Learning what to do if you’re “just not good with money”

-How to learn key, simple financial concepts you actually need to know

-Finding the right support when you’re feeling overwhelmed with getting your finances in order

 

Rachael is no stranger to unexpected life events. She believes your financial plan should always change and adapt with you though, and you should be able to understand what’s happening on your journey to financial independence. I can’t wait for you to hear my conversation with her-this episode is truly a gem, and I know you’re going to gain so much value from it!

Schedule your FREE 30 minute strategy session with Rachael

If you’re ready for a life coach, connect with me here: https://theheartofconfidence.com/

I would love to continue this conversation-connect with me over on Instagram!

This episode is sponsored by http://www.positivevibecoffeeco.com. Enter the code Podcast at checkout, and you’ll get 15% off your first order!

FULL SHOW NOTES: https://theheartofconfidence.com/episode108

Why Our Words Are So Powerful

The words we say carry a lot of power and strength, don’t you think? We use words for good and to benefit others, and we use them to be destructive and tear others (or ourselves) down. With just a simple shift in our language, the words we’re saying can have an entirely different meaning.

 

In today’s episode, I’m talking about:

-Keeping track of the words we’re saying out loud, and really digging into why we’re saying the things we are

-How we can change our negative words and complaints to more positive and compassionate phrases, no matter what we’re doing

-The importance of having accountability and support from a friend, significant other, child, or colleague when we’re in a negative space 

 

I want to encourage you to start using more words and phrases that are empowering, uplifting, optimistic, and supportive of you and those around you. Your energy levels will rise, and you’ll be more open to your dreams and creativity, and all the goodness around you. Remember, if you truly want to make a change in your life, you have to change your words! 

 

If you’re ready for a life coach, connect with me here: https://theheartofconfidence.com/

I would love to continue this conversation-connect with me over on Instagram!

This episode is sponsored by http://www.positivevibecoffeeco.com. Enter the code Podcast at checkout, and you’ll get 15% off your first order!

FULL SHOW NOTES: https://theheartofconfidence.com/episode107